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  • Writer's pictureArtem Gonchakov

Building Personal Development Mindset

Reality check

We - humans, really enjoy it when things are improving.


We are not always certain about the purpose of life, however getting MORE of everything seems appealing almost all the time. Things like knowledge, wisdom, money, free time, better experiences, better understanding, better quality of life, health… It is a modern culture of getting everything to a better state, continuous improvement, which projects on personalities too. In recent years it has become almost a requirement to work on personal development, transformation, growth and improving anything psyche related.


No surprises as globalization, easy access to things that were unavailable back in the days transformed the reality on many levels, so we got overwhelmed, resulting in constant stress, anxiety, depression and habits that are far from being healthy.


I would like to share some useful information on how to approach personal development, reach the state of Personal Maturity and create a proper mindset to withstand the challenges of the modern days, and eventually reach the state of meaningful life with every year to be a much better realization of your personal and professional potential.


Where do we start?

My personal transformation journey began during adolescence when I discovered a book about the subconscious mind and its profound influence on personality, health, perception of the world, and connection to the conscious. This discovery ignited my curiosity in the fields of psychology, philosophy, relationships, and personal maturity. As I delved deeper into these areas, I realized that personal development is not just about achieving certain goals or acquiring new skills; it is also about deepening our understanding of ourselves, others, and the world around us.


Spending the last 17 years exploring and working toward my best left I came to the realization that creating a personal development mindset is a lifelong path of progress with success and failures. It comprises a conscious and ongoing effort to improve various elements of one's life. It is an essential component of a fulfilling existence since it expands our awareness of ourselves, others, and the world around us. Think of Ego, Social and Natural elements that you can be working on as your starting point.


Your first steps should be focused on resetting your current mindset. There is no rush, improving will start happening in little increments.


Developing a Growth Mindset

In order to be more flexible in your transformation, we need to create a growth mindset.


The concept of a growth mindset, popularized by psychologist Carol Dweck in her book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success," is a key component of personal development. It involves believing that one's abilities and intelligence can be developed through hard work, persistence, and a willingness to learn from failures.


Having a growth mindset is crucial for personal development, as it allows us to view challenges and obstacles as opportunities for growth and improvement rather than as setbacks or failures. This mindset enables us to stay motivated, persevere through difficulties, and approach new situations with a positive attitude and an open mind.


To cultivate a growth mindset, there are several key principles we can follow:

  • Cultivate a love of learning. Make a commitment to lifelong learning. Read books, attend workshops and seminars, take courses, and seek out mentors who can help you grow and develop.

  • Practice self-reflection. Take time to reflect on your experiences and the lessons you've learned. Ask yourself, "What worked well? What could I have done differently? How can I apply this knowledge in the future?"

  • Surround yourself with positive influences. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage your personal growth. Seek out mentors, coaches, or friends who inspire you to be your best self.


Cultivating a growth mindset is not a one-time event or a quick-fix solution. It's a lifelong process of continuous improvement that requires dedication, commitment, and deliberate effort.


You do not have a fully developed growth mindset to start the journey, all that matters is self-awareness and desire to change to get your going. What will keep you going is a force of habit, which we will talk about next.


The Power of Habits

Commitment to personal development and realizing that we need a mindset shift are just first steps.


In order to create lasting change, you need to cultivate habits that support your growth and development. We all have habits, whether good or bad, that shape our daily routines and, ultimately, our lives. The power of habits lies in their ability to create lasting change in our behavior, but only if they are intentionally developed and practiced consistently.


One habit that I've developed is allocating one hour a day to study various topics such as finances, business, health, psychology, and effectiveness. By dedicating this time to learning and expanding my knowledge, I'm creating a pattern of consistently feeding my brain with new information and ideas. This habit has helped me to stay curious and open-minded and has played a crucial role in my personality transformation.


Creating positive habits can be challenging, but there are a few key steps that can make the process easier:

  • Start small. Focus on creating one small habit at a time. Trying to change too much too quickly can lead to burnout and frustration. Choose one habit that is important to you and commit to it for at least 30 days.

  • Be consistent. Consistency is key when it comes to developing habits. Try to stick to your new habit every day, at the same time and in the same place, if possible.

  • Track your progress. Keep track of your progress to help you stay motivated and see the positive changes that are happening. Use a habit tracker app, a journal, or a simple calendar to mark off the days that you've successfully completed your new habit.

  • Stay on top. Find a friend, mentor, or accountability partner who can help keep you on track and motivated. Share your goals and progress with them, and ask for their support and encouragement when you need it.


When you start, you want quick results, so it’s easier to utilize existing success stories. One strategy that has been effective for me is the "habit loop" model developed by Charles Duhigg in his book "The Power of Habit." The habit loop consists of three parts: the cue, the routine, and the reward. By understanding and manipulating these elements, we can effectively create and modify our habits. For example, if we want to establish a habit of exercising regularly, we can set a cue (such as laying out our workout clothes the night before), establish a routine (such as going for a morning jog), and reward ourselves (such as enjoying a healthy breakfast afterwards).


Another important strategy for habit formation is to focus on one habit at a time. Trying to change too many habits at once can be overwhelming and counterproductive. By focusing on one habit and building momentum, we can create a ripple effect that leads to other positive changes in our lives. Incorporating habits worth the effort and difficulties - you create foundation, first layer in your mindset for growth.


Nothing can be always positive, hence the very next thing we would face and need to learn dealing with is failure.


Embracing Failure

Failure is natural.


While it may seem counterintuitive, failure can actually be a powerful tool for growth and learning. In fact, it's often said that we learn more from our failures than from our successes. When we experience setbacks, we have the opportunity to reflect on our mistakes, learn from them, and adjust our approach moving forward. Many people have a negative relationship with failure and view it as something to be avoided at all costs.


This mindset can hold us back from reaching our full potential, as we may become too afraid to take risks or try new things. Here are some strategies for adapting failure for growth:

  • Reframe your mindset. Instead of seeing failure as a personal failure, see it as a learning opportunity. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this experience?" and focus on the lessons rather than the outcome.

  • Practice self-compassion. It's important to be kind and compassionate with ourselves when we fail. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend who is going through a difficult time.

  • Take responsibility. While it's important to be kind to ourselves, it's also important to take responsibility for our actions and the role we played in the outcome. This means acknowledging our mistakes and identifying ways we can do better in the future.

  • Get feedback. Seek feedback from others to gain a different perspective on the situation. This can help us identify blind spots and areas for improvement.

  • Use failure as motivation. Instead of letting failure discourage us, use it as motivation to keep pushing forward.


Remember that many successful people have failed multiple times before achieving success. For example, when I was first starting out on my personal development journey, I set a goal to read one book per week. At first, I was excited and motivated, but as the weeks went by, I started to fall behind. Some weeks, I didn't finish the book I had started, and other weeks, I didn't start a new book at all. At first, I was discouraged and frustrated with myself, but I soon realized that this setback was an opportunity to learn and grow. Instead of giving up on my goal, I adjusted my approach. I started scheduling a specific time each day to read, and I made sure to choose books that I was truly interested in. By embracing my failure and using it as an opportunity to learn and adjust, I was able to develop the habit of reading regularly, and it has since become an integral part of my personal growth and development.


Now that we understand that failure is an integral part, we should learn to be more self aware, which leads to development of a strong conscious mind, that you will need to work on your Ego and apply your growth out there in a social environment.


The Power of Mindfulness

Mindfulness is another essential element of personal development and has an enormous influence on final results.


The power of mindfulness lies in its ability to cultivate self-awareness and reduce stress. Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present in the moment without judgment or distraction. When we practice mindfulness, we become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, which can help us better understand ourselves and our experiences.


One powerful way to practice mindfulness is through meditation. Meditation involves sitting quietly and focusing your attention on your breath or a particular object or thought. By doing this, you can cultivate a sense of inner peace and calmness, which can help reduce stress and anxiety.


For example, I practice meditation as a way to self-reflect, generate new ideas, and free my mind of any connections. I break my meditation into three parts.

  • In the first part, I spend five minutes simply listening to my body and noticing how it feels. I pay attention to any areas of tension or discomfort and try to relax those areas as much as possible.

  • In the second part of my meditation, I shift my attention outward and listen to the world around me. I try to recognize different sounds and distinguish between them. This helps me develop a greater sense of awareness and mindfulness of my surroundings.

  • Finally, in the third part of my meditation, I let my mind wander and do whatever it wanted. I allow my thoughts to come and go without judgment or analysis. This helps me create more space in my head for new experiences and ideas.


I also want to share some general strategies for cultivating mindfulness:

  • Set aside time for mindfulness practice. Whether it's through meditation, breathing exercises, or other techniques, it's important to set aside dedicated time for mindfulness practice each day. This can help us develop the habit of being present and fully engaged in the current moment.

  • Use mindfulness throughout the day. Mindfulness doesn't have to be limited to a specific time or activity. We can practice mindfulness throughout the day by bringing our attention to our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings.

  • Engage in activities that promote mindfulness. Activities such as yoga, tai chi, and walking in nature can help us cultivate mindfulness and reduce stress.


Furthermore as we add more social engagement and increasing complexity that inevitably start to challenge our ideas and principles we should learn to withstand anything, logically making us stronger and ready for the next challenge.


Building Resilience

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficult or challenging situations.


It's an essential skill for personal and professional development, as it allows us to handle adversity and setbacks with greater ease and grace. One powerful way to build resilience is to learn from our past experiences of overcoming adversity.


For example, in my professional life, I have faced significant setbacks when my hard work was deprioritized due to overall business challenges. It was a tough time to recover from, but it was also an incredible learning and eye opening experience. It taught me the importance of being adaptable and flexible and how to find new opportunities in challenging situations. The second time this happened, I was more resilient and able to recover faster, within weeks instead of months. I moved quickly to new journeys and was able to achieve success again by applying the lessons learned from my past experiences.


You should start by learning more and integrating basic strategies so you are more prepared in the face of difficult situations and can recover quickly.

  • Practice self-care. Taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally is key to building resilience. This includes getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating healthy nutrition, as well as engaging in activities that bring us joy and relaxation.

  • Continue to build on top of your growth mindset. A growth mindset is the belief that we can learn and grow from our experiences, even the difficult ones. By adopting a growth mindset, we can view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning rather than insurmountable obstacles.

  • Build a support network. Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can help us through difficult times. It's important to reach out and connect with others when we're struggling and to offer support to those who need it in return.

  • Focus on what we can control. In any challenging situation, there are things we can control and things we can't. By focusing on what we can control, such as our own actions and responses, we can feel empowered and capable of making positive changes. It is essential to be able to recover, as life is hard and it is going to happen no matter what; hence, having this kind of mindset is always going to be a useful tool in your toolbox of personal development.


The moment you start to integrate those elements one by one there will be a need to take full accountability for your life and existence. That is a key step in the transformation and impact on the overall maturity of any individual. Take control, go to the next level.


The Importance of Accountability

Accountability is the act of taking responsibility for our actions and decisions.


It is an important aspect of personal development because it helps us stay on track and reach our goals. When we hold ourselves accountable, we become more reliable, which can lead to greater success in our personal and professional lives.


One effective way to cultivate accountability is to set specific, measurable goals. By doing this, we create a clear roadmap for what we want to achieve and when we want to achieve it. It is also important to have a plan in place for how we will achieve these goals. This can include breaking the goal down into smaller, more manageable steps and identifying any obstacles that may arise along the way.


Another key aspect of accountability is tracking our progress. By regularly monitoring our progress, we can see if we are on track to achieving our goals and make any necessary adjustments. This can also help us stay motivated and focused on our goals.


Accountability also involves being honest with ourselves about our progress and acknowledging when we fall short. When we hold ourselves accountable for our actions, we are more likely to take ownership of our mistakes and learn from them, rather than placing blame on external factors.


Personal accountability can also be strengthened by seeking external accountability from others. This can include telling a friend or family member about our goals or hiring a coach or mentor who can provide support and guidance. This external accountability can provide an additional layer of motivation and support as we work towards our goals.


Overall, accountability is an essential aspect of personal development. By setting specific goals, tracking our progress, and holding ourselves accountable for our actions, we can become more reliable and successful in all areas of our lives.


There is more, but I wanted to share the basic elements and concepts so that the journey of personal growth and reaching the next level of maturity doesn’t feel too dark and lonely.


In the nutshell

Personal development mindset is a multifaceted journey that requires commitment, dedication, and sometimes really hard work. Some people may struggle to find motivation; others may feel overwhelmed by the process; and some may face external barriers such as a lack of resources or support. It's important to recognize these challenges and find ways to overcome them.


Introduce key elements one by one in order to have a higher probability of success and less struggle on the way to your desired future:

  • Understand that your mindset need to change, even tho you might not know how yet

  • Start small with little habits and stuck them one, like a piece of cake

  • Use failure as learning and opportunity to revisit your goals

  • Be kind to yourself and mindful of people around you

  • Learn to be stronger and help others to do the same

  • Take full accountability for your existence and results you see, it works like magic


Therefore, it is crucial to approach personal development with an open mind and a willingness to adapt and experiment with different strategies.


Additionally, seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professionals can provide valuable insight and guidance throughout the personal development journey. We must find the strategies and techniques that work best for us and stay committed to our goals.


Invest, embrace, and strive forward to become the best version of yourself



Written by Artem Gonchakov on behalf of Arty Finch (artyfinch.com) for Meta Minds Therapy.


Meta Minds Therapy offers convenient counselling on your terms, including online and after-hours visits. Resolve your internal conflicts from the comfort of your home and customise your therapy to your needs with Meta Minds!


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